Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Seattle-to-Portland 2009!





We did it again! Linda and I hopped on our bikes early Saturday morning, July 11th, and pedaled our way all the way to Castle Rock (about 140 miles) for an earlier arrival this year. That was terrific - we had much more time to enjoy the Mexican Restaurant across from the hotel and settle in for the night.

Sunday morning we had a leisurely breakfast at the local diner and headed out into a dark and stormy morning. In fact, sprinkles moved us to put on our rain jackets less than a mile into the ride, but it never worked itself into a real rain. Others who didn't ride as far as we did on day one had lightening, hail and rain before they caught up to us!

This year my sweetheart also did the ride with his friend, Howard, and we met up several times along the route, which was great fun. I was in the best shape for the STP I ever have been, thanks to George's need to train for it, so I rode LOTS more than I usually do in the spring, for which I'm ever so grateful. I even effortlessly dropped a few pounds, so that weight-to-power ratio for going up hills was a little more in my favor. (That's what happens when the person you ride with for training is just a little stronger than you are... it really made me work harder than I do when I ride alone.)

So there are the pictures of the celebratory finish. In October I'll be riding to raise funds for MS, and I hope that you'll consider donating even a very small amount. I have to raise $300 to be in the ride, so that could be lots of little tiny donations! You can go to my web page here for the MS ride by going to the "MS City to Shore" web site and putting "Cheri Lovre" into the participant search.

Thursday, April 30, 2009

As we continue to deal with the unfolding of the swine flu threat, we need to keep in mind that the health departments in your area will have the information you need on dealing with the health matters, school closures, etc. For the first discussion guideline CMI published for schools you can go to this link.

A few more ideas:

Have school nurses give quick guides for teachers to teach students about our immune systems, reinforcing that most people who get these illnesses just get sick and then get better. If kids ask about who will die from a flu, point out that very young and very old people are most at risk, and that most of us have a pretty good immune system to help us ward off or survive disease.

If students are concerned about flu-related fatality, teachers could represent the large percentage of people who are surviving this flu by using one white bean in a gallon jar of black beans to represent that the vast majority of people who are contracting this flu are surviving. Students could first hear about immune systems, and then the teacher has the gallon jar and puts in lots of black beans, and then generates further discussion about immune systems.

That same jar could be a lesson for older students in the phenomenon of mutation and why it is so helpful to contain the disease. Each bean represents one person who contracts the disease. And each bean, then, represents one more opportunity for the virus to mutate into a more virulent form. So if we put one bean in the jar and that represents that only one person caught this flu from another, the virus has no further chance to mutate. But if 10 people catch the flu from that person, the virus has 10 times more opportunities to mutate. And 100 cases gives 100 opportunities. That means containing the spread is the most effective thing we can do right now.

There are a few precautions that we can teach children (and adults!) that will make a difference. Although we hear to cover our cough, we are not hearing often enough to cough into the crook of our elbow rather than into our hands. As soon as we cover a cough with our hands, everything we touch leaves those "germs" that can then be picked up by others. Keeping our cough and sneeze droplets off surfaces and off our own hands is the goal. And that is why hand-washing becomes critical.

For hand washing, teach kids that using soap and making it bubble and taking some time with it is essential. One way to help kids know how long to keep mushing that lather around on their hands is to have them sing one verse of the "Happy Birthday" song. Soap and water is much more effective than hand disinfectants such as Purell.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Continued Biking Adventures!



For those of you who have been following our biking, we had another terrific year! Linda again flew out to Oregon so we could do the Seattle to Portland, and I just returned from the City to Shore fundraiser for MS - a ride from just outside Philly to Ocean City, NJ and back. Both rides had new "firsts" for us.

On the STP, we made 142 miles our first day - from Seattle to Castle Rock! What a feat of stamina and endurance it was for the last 10 miles! So the fun part was that on day two, we only had about 64 miles left to go, and we averaged 17.2 miles per hour for 60 miles. THAT was TERRIFIC!

The new "first" for us with the CTS was being part of a larger team. Linda's principal was thrilled last year when we did this, because his father died of MS in 1990. So she convinced him to train and ride with us... and then he recruited three other young bucks to ride along. So the six of us raised $5,000 and had a blast on the ride.

So here we are on this year's STP and also one of the team at the beach, which is half way through the CTS ride. None of the fellows were limping yet!!!!

Friday, June 27, 2008

Pictures from this Past Year


Packing my bike to go to the east coast... my son Cameron is a great help!




Finish line of last year's MS ride. Just Linda and me. This year we'll be part of Andy's team, not just riding in memory of his father!




Here is the most amazing woman - she is 85 and has ridden the MS ride for almost 25 years. Notice the skirt and high heels! She gets spontaneous applause from everybody at every rest stop along the way.



Me and my shadow - I snapped this with my phone camera on a training ride through the farmlands of the Willamette Valley where I live.




























Kris Long from North Dakota is one of many people who bring delight to being on the road.

Monday, June 23, 2008

REFLECTIONS ON THE YEAR...

The ASCA conference is nearly upon us, which means we've wrapped up another school year. I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the year. This is a time when I can sit back to consider new trends and unusual phenomenon in the greater arena of school crisis. One way I measure that is to look at what circumstances led people who had attended training, and in many cases have led very active and accomplished crisis response teams, to call for coaching. Often teams respond to a variety of deaths and events and then find one that throws them for a loop, or has potential legal implications, or has great conflict with the ethics or values of a district. At those times I am very open to providing all of the phone consultation and often some email support as well, to help teams get through as well as possible.

Looking historically, although the changes may not have been as abrupt as it seemed, the difference in the '80s and the '90s in school crisis seemed to be all about school shootings and the advent of threat assessment. Although this has been a continuing theme since the turn of this century, I am receiving a few other categories of calls for assistance much more often than a decade or even a few years ago.

One is that there seems to be an upsurge in arrests of teachers for the broad category of child sexual abuse, ranging from teachers having affairs with students to teachers arrested for involvement with child pornography to those who think they are soliciting sex with a minor only to be met at the rendezvous by an FBI agent. At those times, district administrators often struggle with how much to tell students about why the teacher is gone and question how much to tell parents through letters or other communications. Although there is much to consider in cases such as these, clearly there is one standard by which I measure much, and that is, to maintain the trust of parents, it is much better for them to hear it from us than to hear it from another source. Hearing from anyone other than the school guarantees that the school's efforts, policies and procedures, immediate action and methods of safeguarding children will not be represented. Instead, parents will come to believe that the school's efforts are what the media reports, or what they hear via the grapevine, and those will never do the district justice.

Another new phenomenon (probably not new, but coming to our attention more and more often) includes students who have committed homicide, often involving another student or people in the community who are known to the school. In this category, I'm not speaking of gang-related incidents, but rather times when a student who appears by all standards to be an ordinary kid. And something goes amiss. Something that leaves the students, the school and the community with their mouths agape. Often, again, administration is reluctant to address these events openly with students. But our failure to do so simply reinforces to students that, yes, even homicide is just a part of everyday life and we can certainly go on as though nothing has happened. To do this sorely misses the teachable moment for students and we reinforce the school climate that says to students, "If you hear of someone planning such a horrific event, you need not mention it to anyone. We don't talk about those things here." Sweeping these incidents under the rug leaves our schools and our communities more vulnerable to continued similar events.

Finally, this year brought a great number of schools calling with unusual teacher or staff deaths with which to cope. Some were teacher deaths due to socially unacceptable deaths (such as drunk driving) and others were simply heart wrenching moments (such as the death of a pregnant teacher or the death of the infant of a teacher in a school in which there were several other pregnant teachers).

Each of these calls is just as valuable to me as it is for those of you who place them. I know that even my just being a sounding board can help you hear your own process with greater clarity, but too, I know I bring the thoughts that have been generated in a hundred calls like this over the past years, and many good people with whom I've worked have come to great solutions for sticky challenges. My greater message in all of this is that I never want you to hesitate to call to check out an idea, ask for suggestions or see whether I might already have a handout that will be helpful in the moment. This is an ever-changing field and it is my job to stay on the cutting edge and be available to bring that knowledge to you in the moments you most need it.
Enjoy summer and we'll "see" you again in the fall!

CJ

CARE FOR THE CAREGIVER

Many of you ask how I stay so very optimistic in the face of the kinds of circumstances that fill my work. And those of you who attended my keynote at the Pennsylvania School Counselors Association Conference or the conference for counselors in North Dakota all know - biking is one of the major stress reducers in my life. So we're doing it again ~ Linda Shoemaker (counselor from Lancaster county, PA) and I are gearing up for the Seattle-to-Portland bike ride on July 12-13 (that's 204 miles from [duh] Seattle, WA to Portland, OR) and then (drum roll, please) (here's where you come in...) we are also once again raising funds for research to fight Multiple Sclerosis and will do the City to Shore MS Fundraiser Ride in September. I have to raise $250 to be allowed to ride. As riders, we both pay a registration fee (I did that on faith!) and then have to raise the $250.

Last year we rode in tribute to the life of Myron Godfrey, the father of Linda's principal, Andy Godfrey. Andy was moved that we would do his and, in fact, his family contributed to my fundraising efforts. This year, Andy and two other fellows from the Lampter-Strausburg School District are joining with Linda and me and the good news is that we're a team! We're the Pioneer Peddlers (their school team name being the Pioneers). The bad news is that all of Andy's family who will contribute will now contribute to his fundraising efforts, so I'm on my own this year.

We each have a web page for the fundraising, and they're kind of fun to read whether you want to contribute or not. I ride because I love to ride, and even more, because as my joints age, it is the "use it or lose it" syndrome! But for the MS ride, I also find great inspiration as we ride for 150 miles and sprinkled along the path are people who are in camp chairs to wheel chairs with signs like, "I have MS. Thank you for riding." They are in all different levels of disability with the disease, and I'm sure that many who are flagging us through intersections also have MS but are physically fit enough to be helping. Others fix us PB&Js and hand out treats at the rest stops. They think they're inspired to see us ride, but it is really the other way around. It is amazing to me that in the midst of their struggles, they show up the show appreciation. The other absolutely delightful inspiration is the 85-year-old Asian woman who has done this ride (remember, we're talking 150 miles here) for almost 25 years, always in high heels and a nice little skirt. (No kidding!)

So! Take a look here to see my MS Ride web page. And if you know of someone whose loved one has MS and you think they might want to contribute toward research, please feel free to forward this link to them as well.

Friday, November 2, 2007


One of the things we talk about in training is how important care for the caregiver is -- those of us who work in fields that are demanding of us on a psychological or emotional level can easily hit burn-out if we aren't finding wonderful ways of rejuvenation and renewal. I thought it would be fun to post a little about the greatest physical outlet I use - cycling. How surprising and delightful that my biking buddy ends up being a school counselor I met in the process of responding to the Nickel Mines shooting in October of 2006.

We met in October, were becoming fast friends, and she decided to join a gym in December, purchased a bike in April, and we did our first 204 mile bicycle event joining 8,998 other riders in the "Seattle-to-Portland" in July of '07. What a rush! It is just great fun to have bikers ahead of and behind you for as far as you can see. We loved it so much we signed up to do the MS fund raiser that goes from Cherry Hill NJ to Ocean City and back again. 175 miles of pure heaven.

What I love about riding with Linda is that we are almost one unit when we get into it. Heads down, shoulders rounded, one front tire just off the back of the other's, and we just zoom. Last summer we rode the MS fund raiser in memory of Linda's principal's father, who died of MS. If you know someone who has MS or would like to donate to our fund raising efforts, the web site for that ride is "City to Shore" MS ride, and it will let you look for a rider's page. Put in "Cheri Lovre" and you should find my page.